Not understanding?

Okay so here it is, I am not understanding the whole myspace.com? I was currently on Mrs. Elly's blog and tried to look up a few people and got the same response. You go to look at a someones website and you get a message that you have to be "added as a friend." I don't know if I want to be added as a friend. Why you ask? Cause the way Shandra put it " I am a blog stalker" I LOVE to read up on people but rarely like to leave a message. I haven't talk to some of these people in years....not that I wouldn't want to talk to them now, it's just been so long that I would be afraid they wouldn't remember me. If they remembered, I wouldn't know what to say besides the routine questions. I do not mean this in a mean way. I guess what it all boils down to is that I am a nosy person and love to catch up on people and look at pictures!! With this being said this whole converation does not revolve only around college/BSU friends.

To make a long story short, have a friend who went through some rough times with the ex-wife and me being the nosy one wanted to read what she has to say. Therefore I am not on her "friend list" but want to be secretly. Why have a space if only certain people can see it? If it is a privacy issue then this whole myspace, blogspot, xanga, facebook and whatever else craze is pointless. I did it to catch up on people and vice versa not select who I would & would not let in my club. I may be treading on thin ice here or maybe it is a secret jealous issue because I want to be added as a "friend" but not really be a "friend" to this person in particular. I better shut my nosy mouth...you never know who is reading this:)